Letting Go of Control

Published February 13, 2016 by Maryann Kate


Flashback Picture – September 2013 – Walt Disney World

During that same trip, a man randomly said to me “Those with wings will travel,” and I believe he was correct 🙂


As I discussed in the previous blog post, the only thing we can ever be sure of is that everything changes. I wanted to expand on that thought this week and talk about the concept of control.

Now in the past, I’ve been guilty of attempting to control everything in my life. I thought that control would make me feel better inside. That it would give me a better grasp on the chaos that is life. You could say that I used to be a control freak. It’s okay because I know that it’s true. Or at least, that’s how I was in the past.

As I’ve grown older and traveled to far away lands, I’ve realized that trying to control everything doesn’t actually help anything. It actually tends to complicate things more sometimes. Of all the lessons that I learned through traveling, one of the most important ones was to “just go with the flow.” Give up the control and just accept what is. I’m still working on this lesson at the present moment.

I’m a planner and I’ve always been a planner. It’s in my blood. But I can’t help but wonder whether I’m preventing amazing experiences and people from entering my life attempting to plan every detail of it. My goals tend to bleed into one another. Always seeking the next accomplishment. Never being satisfied by what was done in the past. What if I stopped believing that I know everything? What if I stopped analyzing every situation, person, experience in my life and started actually fully living it instead?

Please don’t get me wrong. It’s wonderful to have goals. But at some point in your life, you have to ask yourself, am I living the life that I want? Or am I just trying to please everyone around me by doing the things that I think I should do. I fear that I may be doing the latter.

I desire to attract the experiences and people that will lead me to the life I’ve always wanted (but maybe never envisioned). Sometimes you don’t know where you want to go until you arrive somewhere that you never intended to travel to. We don’t always have everything figured out and that is when some of the best moments in life happen.

I want to be open to all possibilities. I wish to follow my heart and fulfill my soul’s plan. I desire to make a difference in this world. I know I will help people to live healthier lives and hopefully inspire some people along the way as well.

But all of this comes when we give up the control. Stop trying to figure it all out. We get what we need when we need it. Timing is everything. Don’t try to force anything to happen as it tends to lead to struggle. Have faith knowing that if you believe in yourself and your dreams, all things are possible.

My goal is to stay open to all the wonderful things that are waiting to come into my life. To learn how to observe my world rather than constantly judging everything and everyone in it. To know that getting out of my own way is the best thing that I can do for myself. To really experience all that life has to offer and taking in every second of it.

I truly hope that this post resonated with some or all of you out there. Just keep moving forward and always stay optimistic for the future. Surrender the control and start living!

Love you all and until next time…




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